The Coburn Blog

A friend of mine posted this on one of the message boards I frequently visit

It’s interesting how there are SO many posts saying “I’m PROUD to be FAT”,
but none saying “I’m PROUD to be THIN”, and once you post something saying
you’re proud to be naturally thin, you get yelled at, called “shallow”, and
so on. So why is it okay for people to be “proud” to be “fat”, but it’s
horrible and shallow if someone is proud of their naturally thin body? Why can’t we all be allowed to be proud of our own bodies? The double-standards are getting extremely stupid.

Below was my answer to this post, which is the same thing I said in Introduction to public speaking class one day last semester.

The double-standard has to do with the fact that, stupid people think if your thin, then you must be anorexic. (not eating properly or throwing up) but if your fat, people think you eat too much.

Neither of those statements are true. For one thing, just because a girl is naturally thin as a child, doesn’t mean she’s gonna always be thin. 99% of women double in weight after they reach their mid 20’s, or early 30’s, and its not just because of pregnancy either, womens metabolism slows wayy down as they age. Also if you eat a bunch of sugary crap as a kid, you’ll carry those bad habits to your adulthood and you will double, even triple, in weight, thats just a known fact.
After all like they always say, “you are what you eat”.

I think teenagers just don’t understand that just because they have a hollow leg as a teenager, that they’ll always be that way, and that is just not true at all. When your no longer a teenager anymore, you have to stop eating junk food and all that sugary pasta crap, or you’ll triple in weight before you realize it, regardless of how much you exercise. The reason why doctors want us to loose weight when we get to that point in our lives, has nothing to do with looks, for I don’t think most good doctors care how heavy or skinny a person is, it has to do with the fact that,
as we age, and gain weight, comes illness, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, even altimers and cancer if we’re not careful. so really the push in society to loose weight isn’t so much looks as it is about living longer and staying healthy so that our quality of life is better.

Now, having said all that, some people are born heavy, or there are people like my mom who didn’t gain a pound until after she had her gall bladder removed, once she had her gall bladder removed, she went from 120 to 320 in a years time. I mean, things like that happen, it doesn’t make her any less of a person.

THAT is why, you NEVER EVER EVER judge a person based on looks, because just because a person you date may look skinny and petite now, doesn’t mean she’s going to stay that way 5, 10, or 20 years down the road. What are you going to do then guys? divorce her if she gains too much weight??! if you ask me, THAT is shallow!

and women are the same way, they get all upset if a guy doesn’t like them for who they are, yet, the guy has to be all handsome and skinny or she don’t bat an eye, so the girls are just as shallow as the guys are believe me, I’ve dated enough shallow women in my lifetime to have learned that much believe you me. I think I’ve been out with more women then all 3 charmed girls went out with guys combined in that TV show, and each girl I went out with were as shallow as all get out with double standards of their own like that.

both men AND women need to realize, TRUE beauty is found within. Most people tell me “ya its easy for you to say tom, your blind” well ya, but blind people can be just as shallow, believe you me. I’ve met some blind people who put the worst of arrogance to shame. No, I’ve always known that TRUE beauty is found within. who says a 400 lb woman isn’t beautiful on the outside too? who says a 400 lb man isn’t handsome on the outside too? I say, who sets the standards on what is handsome or beautiful and what isn’t??!! Trust me, I’ve met PLENTY of Mrs USA contestants in my lifetime who are so shallow and arrogant that I would never ever be friends with them if they were the last woman on earth.. Looks don’t matter jack to me, and thats why, when I get married again for the last time, whenever that’ll be, whoever that will be with, I know in my heart that it’ll be forever, for that very reason.

After all, if I love her for her beauty within now at 90 lbs, I’ll love her just as much, if not more so, if she reaches 300, for when you truely love someone for who they are, your love for that person only grows stronger with each passing day. So all you women out there who treat your daughters like crap because there not skinny enough, or you guys who treat your mate badly because she’s not as skinny as she once was, stop being shallow and arrogant, and get to know her or him from the inside, because when you love someone on the inside, their outside looks beautiful to you no matter what its shape, color, or age happens to be, and thats what true love is really all about.

Granted, you don’t want to date someone as young as your daughter, or as old as your mother, as I found out the hard way, because you don’t want those images of your daughter, or mother, popping in your head when your getting romantic, ewwww I know, believe me that has happened to me many times, but there is nothing wrong with being friends with that person, and we should never treat our own family that way, we should never judge people for who they are on the outside, for that is what true love is really all about.